Welcome to St. Jude School Feb 05, 2012

  Parents

The following links are provided to help you in your important role as the primary educator of your children.

Parenting

A Father's Unity of Life - James Stenson

A successful father exercises leadership at home as much as on the job — and in roughly the same ways.

Born to Serve, Not to Shop — Effective Parenting in a Nutshell - James Stenson

The real evil of materialism is not the pursuit of things. It is, rather, seeing and treating other people as things — and therefore putting things ahead of people

Discipline: What Works and Why? - James Stenson
Here are some basic ideas about the parents' role of moral leadership in the family, often referred to as "discipline."

Discipline - Dr. Ray Guarendi
Discipline – it's a word that once had a pretty good reputation. Parents instinctively knew that discipline was something kids needed.

Educating in Virtue - JAMES STENSON
Children growing up today are headed toward some formidable challenges.

Finding Time for Fathering - Steve Wood
You will never hear a man towards the end of his life voicing regrets about spending too little time at the office. You will often hear regrets about too little time spent with family. How can we learn wisdom about prioritizing our time before we have spent it? The secret to time management is remembering to observe the Third Commandment.

How to Ruin Your Children - AUTHOR UNKNOWN
Twelve sure fire principles of parenting guaranteed to produce delinquent children.

Moral Imagination Filling Our Children with Good Things - James Duffy
Imagination will work on what we give it. If Pokemon and Terminator are the only things feeding the imagination, then they will form our dreams, too

Prevent Peer Cruelty and Promote Kindness - Thomas Lickona
Schools have no higher moral obligation to students and their parents than to do everything in their power to prevent peer cruelty and create a culture of kindness and respect.

Qualities of Successful Parents - JAMES STENSON
James Stenson outlines the proven methods and techniques of effective Christian parenting today.

Raising Children of Character: 10 Principles - Thomas Lickona
Parenting is arguably the hardest job there is and the one for which we get no training. Here are ten principles of parenting that can guide us in the demanding work of raising children of character.

Teach Manners - Thomas Lickona
Manners are minor morals. They are the everyday ways we respect other people and facilitate social relations. They make up the moral fabric of our shared lives. They need to be taught.

Teaching Maturity and Considerateness at Home - JAMES STENSON
James Stenson provides a brief, but clear outline of what exactly we mean when we speak of maturity, why it is so important, and how to go about teaching it in the home and at school.

The Essential Father - James Dobson
Thirty years ago it was believed that poverty and discrimination were primarily responsible for juvenile crime and other behavioral problems. Now we know that family disruption is the real culprit.

The Vision of Parent Leaders - James Stenson
The real mission for parents is to raise their children toward responsible adulthood. No challenge is more important than this, and so great parents emerge in family life as real leaders. How do fathers and mothers lead their children effectively? To form a picture of parental leadership, let's look at the characteristics of leaders and see how parents fit the profile of leadership in family life.

Christian Marriage
Habits for a Happy Marriage - Richard Fitzgibbons, M.D.
In my 34 years of working with Catholic couples, I have observed seven major conflicts that create severe marital stress. The good news is that these weaknesses can be overcome.
Marriage: A Way to Heaven - Deacon Douglas McManaman
Today is Marriage Sunday and the Archbishop has asked us to preach on marriage, and our pastor in turn has asked me to address this topic, probably because I am married.
Why Marriage Is Good for You - Maggie Gallagher
Recently, I had the opportunity to review the scientific evidence on the consequences of marriage for adults. What I found surprised me. Quietly, with little fanfare, a broad and deep body of scientific literature has been accumulating that affirms what Genesis teaches: it is not good for man to be alone — no, nor woman neither. In virtually every way that social scientists can measure, married people do much better than the unmarried or divorced: they live longer, healthier, happier, sexier, and more affluent lives.
Five non-religious arguments for marriage over living together - Dennis Prager
There are enormous differences between being a "husband" or a "wife" and being a "partner," a "friend" or a "significant other".

“Between Man and Woman” A statement of the US Bishops concerning same sex marriage.

Contraception: Why Not? - Janet Smith

Janet Smith explains why the Catholic Church keeps insisting, in the face of the opposite position held by most of the rest of the modern world, that contraception is one of the worst inventions of our time.

Protecting the Traditional Definition of Marriage in Canada - Stephen Harper

Canadian Alliance Leader Stephen Harper blasted the government of Canada in the House of Commons for its failure to protect marriage in what is being described as the best speech Harper has ever delivered. A motion to affirm the traditional heterosexual definition of marriage was defeated by a vote of 132-137 in large part because of the efforts of Catholic Prime Minister Jean Chretien and the lobbying of members of his caucus

The Practice of Natural Family Planning - FR. WILLIAM SAUNDERS
A question for you regarding Catholics who practice artificial birth control: What is their status in the Church? Are they committing mortal sin? I feel that this is a much misunderstood question by most Catholics, including myself. To further muddle the issue, what is the Church 's position when one's spouse does not want to practice NFP?


Faith and Life
The Mass and the Four Most Important Lessons of Childhood - Michael P. Foley
The four principal ends of the Mass are also the four most important things to teach our children—and ourselves.

"The Eucharist Is Not a Meal Among Friends" - Pope Benedict XVI
Here is a translation of the homily Benedict XVI gave via satellite Sunday at the closing Mass of the 49th International Eucharistic Congress. The congress was held in Quebec City.

Activities for Lent - COLEEN ROONEY
Pope Paul VI in 1969 reminded us in his introduction to the revised liturgical calendar that the season of Lent/Easter is a special time of the year and exerts much influence upon us which can lead to a deepening of our faith if we make use of it. The following are some activities that you may find helpful as you participative with your family (especially with young children) in observing these special 40 days.

All Saints and All Souls - Fr. William Saunders
What are the origins of All Saints and All Souls Day. Are these linked with paganism and Halloween?

Are You Growing Holier? - Jeff Mirus
How do we know whether we are growing in holiness?

Bringing Christmas to Life Again - Fr. Roger J. Landry
In 1223, St. Francis of Assisi inaugurated a pious practice that in places today has become so common that many think that it always existed.

Catholic Traditions for Advent and Christmas - Michaelann Martin
Issue: How can families better live the spirit of Advent and Christmas in their homes?

Confirmation - CHARLES M. MANGAN
Just what are the effects of Confirmation? It is difficult to imagine a better summary than that given in the Catechism of the Catholic Church.

Eucharist, Holy Meal - Scott Hahn
We’re going to be focusing on the very center of the faith this morning, and I feel so woefully inadequate because there is just so much to say about the Blessed Sacrament.

Friday Abstinence - Grace MacKinnon
Dear Grace, I would like to know what is behind the abstinence of meat on Fridays of Lent. Being a Catholic, I was asked that question and I was unable to answer it. Please answer this in your column during Lent if possible.

How to be truly happy - Father John Hardon, S.J.
One of the deepest mysteries of life is that of happiness.

How to Keep Your Children Catholic - Father John A. Hardon, S.J.
This is surely an unusual subject for today’s conference, "How To Keep Your Children Catholic." The subject may be unusual but it is desperately important. I would like to briefly address myself to three questions, expressed in three words, Why? What? and How?

Making a Good Confession - FR. WILLIAM SAUNDERS
I have heard the priests of my parish encouraging us to go to confession during Lent. I admit I have not been to confession in years because I am not sure I know how to go to confession. With all the changes that occurred in the '60s, would you please review how to go to confession?

Thanksgiving After Holy Communion - Fr. Edwin Gordon
The dismissal prayer at Mass, Ite missa est, which is often translated as “Go, Mass is ended” or “Go to love and serve the Lord” is interpreted by the majority of the faithful as a command to leave the church as soon as possible. Inestimabile Donum, the document published by the Sacred Congregation with the authority of the Pope, emphasizes the importance of adoration and prayer after Holy Communion.

The Eucharist and Culture - Ralph McInerny
When she was being drawn to the faith, Edith Stein went into a Catholic church and was fascinated by the sight of people coming and going, kneeling for a time in silent prayer and then leaving. Making a visit, in the phrase; coming to adore Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament.

The Importance of Prayer - Deacon Doug McManaman
The purpose of our life is to learn how to pray, to acquire a rich interior contemplative life

The Rules of Fasting - FR. WILLIAM SAUNDERS
Recently I was discussing the Lenten fasting and abstinence regulations with a friend. He told me that a person is supposed to fast one hour before receiving Holy Communion. I honestly have never heard that before. Can you clear up this matter for me?

Sexuality Education

"Sexual Wisdom" - a summary - Dr. RICHARD WETZEL, M.D.

The sexual revolution promised to give people greater freedom and joy in their sex lives; but has resulted in record levels of sexually transmitted diseases, the legitimization and spread of pornography, greater hostility between the sexes, and critically high divorce and illegitimacy rates. Sexual Wisdom, a book by Dr. Richard Wetzel, M.D. offers a way to redirect this revolution.

Guidelines for Sex Education - The Pontifical Council for the Family
The Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality, published by the Pontifical Council for the Family, is an extremely important document."Hard-hitting and eloquent and the result of 21 years of study and consultation, it states a powerful case for traditional Christian sexual morality

A 'No' to a 'No' is a 'Yes' - Father Robert Barron

One of the commonest complaints against Catholicism is that it is the religion of “no,” especially in regard to the sexual dimension of life.

Character-based sex education - Thomas Lickona

Human beings, given the right support, tend to rise to meet high expectations. Chastity is difficult, but so is most of what is truly worthwhile in life. It is time for all of us, schools and parents, to raise the bar.

Does anything work in sex education? - Jennifer Roback Morse
A study shows that abstinence education programmes don't work. They had the same failure rate as contraceptive programmes. Then there's the rest of this story that you're not likely to hear about.

The Neglected Heart: The Emotional Dangers of Premature Sexual Involvement - Thomas Lickona
In discussions of teen sex, much is said about the dangers of pregnancy and disease — but far less about the emotional hazards.

Media
Children and the Media: A Challenge for Education - Pope Benedict XVI
“Children exposed to what is aesthetically and morally excellent are helped to develop appreciation, prudence and the skills of discernment. Here it is important to recognize the fundamental value of parents’ example and the benefits of introducing young people to children's classics in literature, to the fine arts and to uplifting music.”

Parents v. Television — Seven Steps to Sure Victory - Randall Murphree
Pre-season hype last fall boasted that the major networks were going to push the envelope this television season with more profanity and more graphic sexual content. By and large, they have delivered on those promises. Here are a few strategies a conscientious family can use to gain control over television.

Protect Yourself from the Internet's Moral Dangers - JEFFERY A. MIRUS
If you have both an Internet connection and children at home, and you haven't considered this problem seriously, I urge you to do so now.

Television Statistics and Sources - TV - FREE AMERICA
According to the A.C. Nielsen Co. (1998), the average American watches 3 hours and 46 minutes of TV each day (more than 52 days of nonstop TV-watching per year).

Video Violence Can Have "Profound Negative" Impact - BRUCE SULLIVAN
A panel of experts testified on Tuesday before the Senate Commerce, Science, and Transportation Committee on the effects of violent, interactive video games...


Abortion
Against Abortion, But Pro-Choice? - Fr. William Saunders
Sometimes I have met Catholics — especially where I work — who say, "I am personally against abortion, but I am pro-choice." To me, that makes no sense, but how can I argue with them?

Anti-Abortionist At Large: How To Argue Abortion Intelligently And Live To Tell About It - Raymond Dennehy
This book is my autobiographical account of almost four decades of publicly speaking against, and debating on, induced abortion before radio and television audiences as well as community groups and on college campuses.

Abortion and the Conscience of the Nation - President Ronald Reagan
While sitting as the fortieth president of the United States, Ronald Reagan sent Human Life Review this article shortly after the tenth anniversary of Roe v. Wade; HLR printed it with pride in their Spring, 1983 issue.

Church Has Always Condemned Abortion - Fr. William Saunders
I had an argument with a friend about the Church’s teaching on abortion. She said that the Church was not against abortion until the 20th century; I said that the Church has always been against abortion. Am I right, and if so, what evidence is there to give to my friend?

How Abortion Has Failed Women - Elizabeth Fox-Genovese
A few years ago, seemingly out of the blue, in the midst of a long e-mail message on other matters, a professional friend evoked her sadness at having had an abortion when she was in her twenties.

How Abortion Hurts Women: The Hard Proof - Erika Bachiochi
In order to persuade the “personally opposed” pro-choicer we must address this 1970s feminist fallacy that abortion is necessary for women’s sexual equality and well-being. In point of fact, medical evidence, sociological data, and the lived experience of many women proves that abortion harms women physically, psychologically, relationally, and culturally.

How to explain why abortion is wrong - Matthew Pinto
"I know abortion is wrong, but how can I tell others why it is wrong?"

Human Personhood Begins at Conception - Peter Kreeft
Philosopher Peter Kreeft presents the arguments commonly used to explain why the unborn child is not a human person and then shows clearly and simply why each of these arguments cannot possibly be true.

Life Principles: A Model for Teaching the Philosophy of the Pro-Life Movement - Robert Spitzer, S.J., Ph.D.
The Life Principles Program is a project devoted to explaining the underlying philosophy of the pro-life movement to a secular culture. This uniquely rational and commonly accessible approach has had a powerful and overwhelmingly successful effect on the positive education of pro-life issues around the country. Here following is a short-course in the Life Principles by founder Robert Spitzer, S.J., Ph.D.

Making pro-life more effective - Archbishop J. Michael Miller, CSB
As a Catholic Christian and pastor of the Archdiocese of Vancouver, I believe the pro-life movement can be increasingly effective in the years to come; here are a few reflections on how.

Medicine’s Best-Kept Secret: The Abortion-Breast Cancer Link - Joel Brind
The public health establishment and the abortion industry know all about it, but they don’t tell the women who need to know.

Presenting the Abortion Issue to Children - Father Frank A. Pavone
At the start of the homily, I asked for a volunteer from among the youngest, smallest members of the congregation.

Samantha Shrugged - Barry Michaels
I teach eleventh-grade religion at a respected and flourishing Catholic college-prep high school in the state of New York. My students are bright and talented kids, the children of some of the most successful people in this part of the state. Our discussions on morality are a window into the culture that nurtures them at least as much as most of their families do. We recently tackled abortion.

Sex, Lies, and Abortion - Dinesh D'Souza
Recently I was invited to speak at a fundraiser organized by a Michigan right-to-life group, which had asked me to reflect on this question: "If the pro-life case is so strong, why aren't we winning?"

When Do Human Beings Begin? "Scientific" Myths and Scientific Facts - DIANNE N. IRVING
Current discussions on abortion, human embryo research (including cloning, stem cell research, and the formation of mixed-species chimeras), and the use of abortifacients involve specific claims as to when the life of every human being begins

Homosexuality

But What do I Say? - J. Budziszewski

The gay-activist movement is finding its way into more and more schools — promoting destructive behavior under the guise of tolerance. How can you ensure that the truth gets a fair hearing?

After the desert: A faithful Catholic's reflection on same-sex attraction - Steve Gershom

What would I know about vocation? I'm 28, a faithful Catholic and gay.

Homosexuality - FR. WILLIAM SAUNDERS
I was very disturbed over the recent letter "Always Our Children." It seems to make homosex


 
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